We exist within relationship, not only with each other but within our entire Universe.  Everything and everyone is constantly communicating its needs, temperament, attractions, repulsions, and overall expressions of who or what it is within any given moment.  Meaning communication is simply the expression of unity. We typically think of communication within the scope of the direct attempt to express ourselves, but this scope is of very limited potential.  

The reason it is so limited, is do to the nature of language itself.  While language may infer direct communication of many types, it is the inherent properties of language itself which create limitation.  The definition of communication, is the successful conveying or sharing of ideas or feelings.  The keyword hear is successful; and when one thinks of language, the possibility of misinterpretation will surely arise.  Language depends on two things, interpretation and expectation.  Thus we can see the twofold nature of language, as language in gross form exists within the nature of duality and will always produce at least two meanings.  At the basic level, the two bare minimum interpretations are meaning and without meaning, and based on the expectation either one may arise.

Imagine two masters in dialogue about truth, and both acclimated to the highest distinctions of truth one can represent in words.  Truth can be approached from at least two directions, from within or from without.  From within, everything is one and any distinctions from oneness are emanations of a self separated from the whole.  From without, everything is separate, trying to be one.  If either master knows not where the other is coming from, misinterpretation may ensue and conflict inevitable.  Though this may sound like an unlikely scenario, it represents the ease at which misinterpretation can occur and why language more readily divides than joins when one’s corresponding stance has not been carefully established.

Just to add to the confusion; in a way, we hear what we want to, and therefore engrain the currents of our expectations.  This can occur do to our expectations of a similar circumstance arising, or perhaps from a certain emotional disposition arising into a particular expectation.  Either of which does not matter, as the probability of clear and successful communication dramatically lowered.  And the icing on the cake is; emotions may ultimately overcome reason, rendering language in a highly emotional state useless to anything but conflict or dramatically easy acceptance.  The point is, language in its current state is simply not a reliable representation of the union we share and therefore communication.

To some, this may represent a deficit in our ability to communicate, but to me it represents the enormous potential or real communion with one another that is available, and therefore our wholeness; it is so great, it cannot be contained.  What this means, is that the potential for better communication is wide open, and available to new and exciting ways to revolutionize what we think of as language.

“And first there was the Word.” This is the cornerstone of the creation story, yet If everything came from the word, then the word gave birth to everything and thereby penetrates everything. What this means is, words penetrate our experience much more deeply than we think. In fact, it is our words which literally paint the experience of our lives.

A great analogy for this with any given word used in language, is an iceberg. Think of the visual portion of the iceberg as the relationship to the word we’re conscious of, and the submerged portion of the iceberg as the relationship the word has to our subconscious. First, if you know anything about icebergs, you’ll know that the submerged portion is much greater than what is seen on the surface. So to is it with our subconscious, as only 5% of our brains processes are conscious and therefore the other 95% subconscious.

So the question is, how do words interact with our subconscious? In order to answer this question, one first needs to consider our relationship with all others who speak the same language. Though many words are neutral, such as conjunctions, many are not and also carry within them many different meanings or uses. Just like we as human beings of experience have a conscience or overall emotional sentiment about our experience, and a group can have a shared sentiment or conscience about a particular environment or circumstance; so to do words have a sort of conscience or shared sentiment in regards to our shared relationship with them. In this way, words inherently contain an emotional charge which interacts with us on a conscious as well as subconscious level. An easy way to visualize this would be to imagine the inner emotional experience each one of us has had in relationship to a particular word. Put it all in one big pot, then divide the pot by the number of individuals and the emotional sentiment of the word is no longer your own, but an emotionally charged starting point for one’s experience regarding that word.

The issue which compounds this, is that it’s our subconscious fabric which pieces together the currents of our experience. And when words are heard, they enter us and reverberate within that inner fabric, literally generating the outline for experience both inwardly and outwardly. This is also how patterns work within the subconscious, as a pattern is nothing more than a grouping of words or their related thought which reverberates within and is executed repeatedly. In this way, it is not only the words we choose to describe our lives, but also the way we use them which literally comprises our disposition or inner stance.

When I meet someone, regardless of their visual successes or lack there of, I can quickly get a feel for the fabric of their inner experience simply based on the language they use and the way in which they use it. For instance, when one incessantly uses big words despite the necessity of their use within the given environment, it broadcasts a lack of confidence and the need for validation. When one uses profanity to describe the details of their day, the correlating experience is more than obvious. When someone describes their outlook on life with a series of self defeating words, I can see they’ve already succumbed to inner defeat. When one speaks constantly without the availability for another to respond, they are typically trying to convince themselves or others they are something they’re not. The point is, the language we use is intrinsically related to the human experience, both inwardly and outwardly.

When a wise man says to choose your words carefully, they’re honoring a great truth and one could gain much from abiding in it.

Have you ever been in a conversation with someone and suddenly, the other person professes you said something you did not? Have you ever been in a group discussion, where once it’s over you walk outside with someone else who was there, and it seems you heard different versions of what was shared? This occurs because understanding is based on resonance and not necessarily on the formation of one’s words.

In one of my previous jobs, I use to prescribe hearing aids. Meaning, I would test an individuals ability to hear certain frequencies, then prescribe and fit them with hearing aids based on the results. I learned a lot about communication in the process. The two most insightful things were that one, our brains will fill in the gaps between what is being said and what is understood. And two, understanding is more about resonance than words. Many of you may know that there’s a blindspot in our eye where the optic nerve is attached and goes back into our brains. Based on this anatomy of the eye there should be a small spot inherent in our vision within both eyes, but we never see them because our brains compensate for these spots filling the space where they are, with the vision of their relative surroundings.

Just as in the eye, what we hear and therefore have the capacity to understand, is also compensated for by our brains. The big difference is that our capacity to understand is much more subjective than our vision and is quite unique to each individual. Because of this, communication itself is highly subjective when it comes to language and really asks an important question. Do we really know that another person is truly hearing everything we’re saying and vice versa?  If our ability to grasp or understand things is dependent on the foundation of our understanding up to that point, how could we really know. I have actually tested this idea when engaged in deep conversations of truth with others by asking them to repeat back to me what I was saying, and was very surprised with the variance of results. It seemed that the availability for one to recognize truth is especially dynamic in this way and really supports the idea that one man’s trash is another man’s treasure. I think this saying is true of the potential to hear truth more than anywhere else.

In regard to the resonance of understanding, there where many times where I’d be establishing the hearing impairments of an individual with there spouse or someone close to them present in the room, and be shocked by the patients ability to tune into the other person regardless of the validated hearing loss present in their test. It was as though they had developed the ability to tune into the other person at a different level. However, it seemed this ability to adapt came more from willingness than necessity. As there were just as many times where someone with much milder hearing loss swore they couldn’t understand what their partner was saying half the time, and seemed to be in constant conflict with them. Needless to say, I learned a lot. But what fascinated me most was the cochlea, this is the instrument within the inner ear responsible for translating our understanding of frequencies and therefore resonance into the brain. Interestingly, this same instrument is responsible for our sense of balance and gravity. In short, when this instrument finds resonance as a result of external stimuli, understanding occurs. Curiously, recent study of the cochlea has revealed that it not only resonates inwardly but actually emits external frequencies.

So what does this all mean? It means that our ability to truly understand one another rests in our ability to resonate with one another and simply cannot be dependent on words. I think we have already established this in the sense that most of the blood spilled in the world has been over only a hand full of words. In order to find new and successful ways to communicate we need to approach the challenge through resonance rather than expectations based on the subjectivity of language.

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Eddie @ Wisdom 41

 

 

 

 

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Eddie @ Wisdom 41

 

 

 

 

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